If You Really Loved Me

Do you ever find yourself thinking: If you really loved me you would know what I want ... If you really loved me you would always want me with you ... If you really loved me you would agree with me ... In [this book, the author] tackles those everyday frustrations that cause arguments and confusion, lead to endless misunderstandings, and sabotage joy in relationships. [The author] has found that the source of a relationship's trouble often involves love knots or those hidden expectations and assumptions or beliefs that we bring to intimate relationships. [The author] examines many of the most dangerous relationship traps such as: The invisible contract, overlooking each other's terms for intimacy; The revolving ledger: unknowingly expecting each other to make up for past hurts; The negative infinity loop: triggering each other's "emotional allergies"; Love knots: hidden beliefs or assumptions that ruin relationships; Double binds: setting up no-win situations.-Back cover.